Words can bring together...

Words can bring together...
Moncy Varghese

Monday, December 5, 2011

Dreams into Action

Put Your Dreams Into Action

Powerful Dreams Inspire Powerful Action.

When You Can Taste, Smell, and Touch Your Dream, You Can Enroll the World.
Life is either a daring adventure or nothing.
Security is mostly a superstition. It does not exist in nature.
- Helen Keller

Every day is a day to take action. Whatever your choices, take action on those
choices. Taking no action is equally a choice, just not a choice made from
awareness. Make conscious choices, and take action on those choices - Today.

Today is your day to Spread Wing and Soar.
Fly Life on Free Wings, and Sing to its Glory.
Like a bird in flight, your life can soar above the troubles of the world. Breathe
deep, choose, and break the shackles of your past. Don’t wait. Do it today - and
again tomorrow.

Act with Bold Courage - Standing in the inspiring vision of my future, I boldly take every step - large and small - with courage and intent.

Today is your day.

What are you going to do today that you will thank yourself for tomorrow?

Thursday, December 1, 2011

Personality Development Tips

Personality Development Tips

Prepared by Moncy Varghese(Chief Coach,TOP Academy, Kochi) 

Know about yourself:

You are a product, know how to sell yourself in the market.
Tell your features to the customer.
Know about your strengths and weaknesses.


• Something which you want to do.
• Some thing which gives satisfaction.
• Something you learn very fast - Natural learning.
• Something that gives a feeling of Excellence / Achievement
• Something you consistently want to know more and excel or improve in it .

How To Find Your Strengths:

• Find what you enjoy doing.
• Believe you did well.
• Feel satisfaction.
• Take pride.

How To Identify Your Strengths:

Answer these questions to identify your strengths -
• How did I initially become involved?
• What did I do?
• How did I do it?
• What was especially enjoyable about doing it?

How To Develop Your Strengths:

• Choose one strength
• Excel in it


• Weakness is what you do not do well.
• Things you feel defensive about-you give excuses.
• You try hard to correct any behavior / skill.
• You have to work hard to learn.
• Feel loss of confidence and exhaustion in doing a thing.

How To Identify Your Weaknesses:

Answer these questions to identify your weaknesses –
• How long it took me to learn?
• What I did not like?
• Why I did not like it?
• How I felt after doing it?

How To Manage Your Weakness:

• Stop getting angry.
• Delegate your work to someone else if you can not do it.
• Think of the alternative ( if you are scared of meeting people take a career in finance , computer programming then on sales /marketing).
• Allow your strengths to overpower your weakness.
Do not spend time in making your weaknesses as strengths, just try to remove them.


  • Your own image in your eyes.
  • What you think about yourself.
  • Every individual is unique and has strengths and weaknesses
    • Awake and recognize your strengths. Have a positive self esteem about yourself.
  • Positive Self Esteem leads to Self confidence - to do any thing or everything you want to do.

Signs Of Low Self Esteem:

• Self depreciating statements.
• Negative self critical dialogue.
• Feeling inferior / inadequate.
• Comparing yourself with others.
• Giving negative mental messages (I am always making mistakes).
• Feeling uncomfortable in social situations and with friends.
• Need for approval -
. Seeking recognition from others.
. Depending on other’s opinion.
. Expecting mercy / sympathy to feel good.

Signs Of High Self Esteem:

• Proactive / positive attitude.
• Not scared of making mistakes.
• Ready to take risks.
• Focusing on your strengths.
• Beliefs and attitudes -
• You need not be perfect.
• Do not compare with others-you are unique.

Self Esteem leads to Assertiveness – the purpose is to:

• Maintain respect for self and other’s needs and rights.
• Keep communication lines open.
• Achieve goals.

Engage and develop human relationship.

Balance Your Rights and Rights Of Others:
If you only think of your rights you are aggressive.
If you think of only others’ rights you are nonassertive.

Assertiveness - the ability to express your thoughts and feelings in a way that clearly states your needs and keeps the lines of communication open with the other.
Be assertive in following situations:
• When you want/ do not want something
• When you are hurt
• When you are happy / angry
• When you want to give feedback
• In the face of criticism
• When you want to negotiate

You are what you always think about yourself!!!!


Every human has certain rights and along with the rights come responsibilities .

Right: To Be Treated With Respect.
Responsibility: To Respect The Rights Of Others.

Right: To Express Opinions And Feelings.
Responsibility: To Welcome The Opinions And Feelings Of Others.

Right: To Set Goals.
Responsibility: Help Others To Work To Their Goals And Objectives.

Right: To Refuse A Request Or Say ‘No’.
Responsibility : To Encourage Others To Use Their Time The Way That They Want.

Right: To Ask For What I Want.
Responsibility: To Encourage Others To Fulfill Their Needs.

Right: To Make Mistakes.
Responsibility: To Help Others Learn Through Their Mistakes So That They Can Grow.

Right: To Get What I Pay For.
Responsibility: To Give Best Value And Service For The Money And Rewards I Receive From Others.

Right: To Change My Mind.
Responsibility: To Help Others Reach Conclusions About Their Experiences Of The World.

Right: To Decide Whether Or Not To Assert Myself.
Responsibility: To Allow Others The Freedom To Choose How They Behave.